Things you guys need to know about women

30 Mar Things you guys need to know about women

I feel there is a need to explain to men how a woman wants to be treated. There are so many grown boys out there that have no clue on how a woman psyche works and don’t really know how to approach it. It could be for different reasons, cultural, backgrounding or simply lack of knowledgable experience with women. Whatever reason it is, this is not an excuse. You guys, have to be aware of the basics at least. So allow me to break it down for you form a woman point of view.

In this new era of social media, where technology has become an essential part of our lives, you can not expect that relationships have to follow the same path. Relationships does not grow on cold internet connections. You have to work your way through a face to face meeting. I’m not fan of the virtual world. I’ve already made that clear. I think we are going more and more to a point where we are going to be isolated at home in the meta world and end up having virtual relationships. OMG! That’s awful! We are humans, socializing and being around other humans is part of what we are! 

So with this been said, don’t expect a real woman to play games via chats or whatever connections you have with her. She plays a whole other game.

Let me explain what a real woman is first: a real woman was a once upon time girl whom grew up and now is independent, has her own job or career or in the process of getting there, has her own circle of close friends, take care of her self by doing whatever she’s into and has began a spiritual path. She has gone through toxic relationships and now is in contact with her higher self. As Julia Roberts said: “Women, you are not rehabilitation center for badly raised men. It’s not your job to fix him, change him, parent him or raise him. You want a partner not a project.” That’s where a woman stands. She will not accept anything less than what she’s worth of. 

The first thing you need to know on how approach her is that YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. Since a woman doesn’t chase anyone, she attracts, you have to be the one showing interested and not being afraid of being yourself. What we really love, is a genuine person who is down to Earth kinda of type. Someone who knows exactly his flaws but works on it and with love expands himself through it. That’s a real man. Being clear in what you wish in your mind first, will help you being clearer with her. So don’t wait, if you like someone, just put yourself out there. We, as women, love someone with initiative. Don’t waste any time. 

The main problem I have noticed, is that most of you guys are very well accustomed to have many options with girls that are available when they want. Since the feminine revolution, since we gain power and finally got recognized of a place in society, we have took away from you, men, this power. You got lazy. And lazier. But we, as women, all have experienced that when you want something, you’ll go after by all means. It’s in you DNA when you do connect with this primordial part of yourselves. 

The second one you need to know is TO BE HUMBLE. We, as women, hate a man who is just full on himself. It might work out with girls, but let me assure you, with women it doesn’t. When you come from a place of humility, kindness will be shown in a natural way. We appreciate a gentle heart. If you are humble, you are patient too and when you are patient, you have been observing, so you know exactly where you stand. You know what to say and when to say it. You have to be a master on these things. How? Well, as everyone, through self discovery.

I remember recently I connected with this guy. We exchange a few text, he was on holidays where I live. And I propose to meet but didn’t feel the excitement from his part. So I sincerely forgot about him. Then a few days after, he started to text me telling me where he was during day and things like that. And one morning he texted me something which I didn’t understand, I thought he was telling me he was sick or something. Instead he text me back by saying to put my glasses on (no emoji’s) and that he was in town. Nothing else. I mean seriously???? First of all, a woman is not available when you pretend her to be, and not even asking but just assuming. Second of all, there are sooooo many different ways to be kind and the phrase “to put my glasses on” is not one of them, just because I misinterpreted a weird message. Of course I never responded to him. Come on! 

The third point you need to know is if you are going out with a woman, MAKE THE MOVE TO PAY. I know this matter will have some repercussion ‘cause some will say we are equal so there is no need to pay. But to get to go out with a woman you really desire, it has to feel it’s an honor and the best way to show it is in the little things such as providing for her if she decide to accept it. It has to come from the heart, not from showing off. And it can be only a coffe. It doesn’t necessary means you have to impress her with a dinner in the most expensive restaurant. It’s not about that at all! It’s all about the gesture, the thought and the desire to spend time with her. Which by the way, can be anything that suits your and her way of living and personalities.

I once went out a few time with this older guy, very hot, but very stingy too. We were at a restaurant and had a very pleasant night together. When the bill arrived, he felt the need to pay but the worst thing was he did made feel that. And then mentally calculated the precise half of the bill and told me how much it would have been for me. Then he added well you’ll pay next time. OMG!!!! I never felt so small in my life. If you can not afford it or don’t think it’s worth it, DON’T DO IT! But don’t mistreat the other person and make her feel bad. A part from that, you can understand a lot from this types of behaviors. And a woman runs the fuck away from these persons. In the long run, a man who is not generous, in difficult times will not be there to support a woman.

It’s interesting because after a few months from this guy, I met this other younger one, who actually made me feel like a princess even though our relationship was strictly fiscal. He always paid no matter where we were, if it was breakfast out or ordered dinner at home. And he always brought something to drink or eat when he used to come to my house. He was a young gentleman and he was half of the other guy age. That does make the difference. And it’s not age related.